Wisdom

15. Apr, 2021

At the age of 65 my dad had been unexpectedly diagnosed of terminal cancer. It still brings tears to my eyes just thinking of him being told this hideous news 17 years ago.  He was given just 3 months to live. My mum was the same age and became desperate to save him and make sure that his last few months allowed him to see the value of his life. When people are on the verge of death and they have accepted it, 5 stages of grief, Elizabeth Kubler Ross, Home - EKR Foundation those that are left, being the comforter and the witness, often feel that they have to act and they need to be comforted. This feeling and drive is often overwhelming and so seek to ease their pain, thinking all the while they are easing the pain of those with the diagnosis of a terminal illness. They may well be. 

My brother, seeking to ease his own pain, but knowing that his chest infection could kill my dad, decided that he would pay his respects and take the risk and visit him. My dad died of a chest infection.  Admittedly  my dad died only a few days before he may have been predicted to,  but enough to deny those that loved him and were free of infection to visit him and pay their last respects including his brothers, sisters, neighbours and friends. 

When people are in pain or in need and they are aware of the needs of others, and they have choices, they should consider what they can compromise for the sake of others or for the flourishing of humanity. Those actions could actually save lives and indeed demonstrate selflessness. 

It’s a pleasure to give something up, to compromise, although sometimes with a heavy heart to do so, but for the sake of giving to others for the sake of love. ❤️💜💛💙♥️